2 Reasons You're an Exhausted Leader
By Jim Moon, Jr.
Associate Director & Coaching Catalyst
I’m so busy! It’s all good stuff, but between work and family and serving the church, I’m exhausted.
How many times have you heard this from a high-capacity leader? Or thought something similarly to yourself? I know I have.
Exhaustion is the preceding problem to many bigger issues in organizations and individual lives. It should be an alarming warning light you take seriously.
So, why do leaders work near the edge of exhaustion?
As a Gospel Coach to high-capacity leaders, I’ve seen a few common reasons. Here are two:
1. High commitment to work hard with low commitment to basic spirituality.
High-capacity leaders get affirmed and rewarded for hard work and an ability to produce. I can do many things well all at the same time. It seems, at least initially, that perpetual busyness pays off!
But does it pay off? If you’ve been leading for more than a decade, you know it doesn’t, even if you won’t admit it to yourself. High-capacity leaders get exhausted and it can lead to bigger problems.
I hate this quote from Eugene Peterson so much I have it taped to my monitor: “Busyness is the enemy of spirituality. It is essentially laziness…filling our time with our own actions instead of paying attention to God’s actions.”
I hate it because he’s right.
God says rest one day in seven, but I think it’s a trick to keep me from doing my job with excellence. God tells us to pray and meditate on Him and His Word, but I easily get distracted thinking of 15 more urgent things to get done yesterday. Over the long haul, endless hard work without biblical spirituality sets you up to feeling exhausted.
2. High capacity to make things happen with low capacity to trust what has happened.
My first management job at age 21 was on the road leading five other young men on tour with a music production company out of St. Petersburg, FL. The mission was: “Make It Happen!” Literally, the shows had to go on no matter what!
High-capacity leaders get addicted to making it happen because we get our value and identity out of doing. But this short-changes the profound truth that leaders are human beings, created in the image of God.
High-capacity leaders are human beings, not a human doings.
You’re made to thrive in a relationship with God, other people and His creation. This was done for you by God through Jesus.
What is the risk of exhausted high-capacity leaders?
You tell me. You’ve seen it. What happens when leaders are exhausted?
Some complain, some quit, others quit and don’t tell you. Others burnout and some make catastrophically bad decisions that impact everyone around them.
Exhausted leaders have a problem that can be addressed. If you see yourself headed in this direction, a Gospel Coach can help you learn to live based on what Jesus has done.
Gospel Coaches help high-capacity leaders do well in work but not at the expense of your soul and the things you truly value like family, ministry, and health.
CMM can help you find a Gospel Coach and even train you to coach other high-capacity leaders. You don’t have to face the challenges in ministry alone. We believe every leader needs coaching that involves intentional gospel conversations with focused discussions about one another’s relational, personal, missional, and spiritual life.
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©Jim Moon, Jr., used by permission
by Dr. Tom Wood
President of CMM
Team ministry has been written about a lot. Whether in the business community, medical community, start-up companies, large corporations, military or education, teams are the way to go. But it has not always been so in the church. Today, more and more churches see the value of forming ministry teams who work together toward a common outcome. Search for “Team Ministry books” at Amazon.com and you will find over 300 titles. You can find practical help for doing ministry as a team or working with teams in the church through a variety of sources.
Since many of you have been raised in an educational system that thrives on learning groups or work groups, from elementary education on up, you might have experienced a close relative of teams. Work groups are similar, but not the same as teams. You most likely have been part of a small group that studies together. Again, it is similar but not the same.
Most of what is in the marketplace about team ministry is utilitarian in nature. It is as if the whole purpose of team ministry is to get some job done in the best, most efficient way.
The Bible makes it clear that teams did not originate with a business guru, but first in the Trinity. God himself exists and functions as a team (Gen. 1:26). He is The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit. God is love because God is a Trinity (team). The Triune God worked together in Creation and it is the Triune God (team) that worked in bringing salvation and renewal. God is generous, creative, serving, and saving because He is a Trinity. We were created to exist and function as a team (Gen. 1:27, 28). Your marriage and kids are a team.
We also discover that teams are the basic building blocks for the church (Mk. 3:14; Acts 1:15,26). Teams bring together a diversity of gifts and are the best place for disciple-making. In the local church, team members should be committed to one another’s relational, personal, missional, and spiritual growth and health. They must see themselves as mutually responsible and accountable for one another.
Teams have the potential to be one of the most powerful drivers of planting and growing a healthy reproducing church. However, teams simply don’t just happen. They take time to mature. They require proper leadership.
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by Robin Vaughn
Women's Coaching Catalyst at CMM
“As the wife of a church planting pastor, I seldom get the chance to pour out the less-than-pretty places in my life with a sense of safety and belonging. Having someone who’s neither directly affected by nor dependent on your own well-being is a rare gift for the heart in ministry.” Kassie
We see ladies leading everywhere: in their workplaces, their churches, their communities, and most importantly, seeking to manage their families and homes. I often find myself amazed as I witness unselfish sisters around me lending their strength in a way that defies comprehension. We women play such a powerful role in the lives of our spouses, our children, and the people we lead.
As women shepherd so many around them, one question arises: Who is shepherding them?
Where do they find admonishment, comfort, truth-telling, and help in moving from one stage of life to the next?
Women need Gospel Coaching.
A Gospel Coach serves as a discipler, spiritual mentor, and coach in a unique type of friendship. These coaches recognize the abilities and gifts God has given female leaders and encourage their development.
Ephesians 2:10 says:
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.“ (ESV)
God has prepared the good works we will walk in, and coaching can be an integral piece of the process by imparting skills and encouragement. This helps the leader walk out those good works and fulfill her role in ministry, life, and work.
The fruit of Gospel Coaching is not only for the female leader, but can also benefit her family, her church, and others in her sphere of influence.
Women today are bombarded with ideas derived from humanistic marketing that claim “self help” solutions are the answer.
Gospel Coaching guides us as women to uncover the idols of our hearts that propel us toward false hopes. The gospel teaches that the problem is inside our hearts and minds, and the answer is not in our own efforts, but in Christ alone. Jesus has already done it all on the cross, and He is the ultimate solution to every problem we face.
Remember, you don’t have to face the challenges in ministry alone. We believe every leader needs coaching that involves intentional Gospel conversations with focused discussions about one another’s relational, personal, missional, and spiritual life. We suggest getting a C.R.O.S.S. Gospel Coach to help walk with you through the challenges you’ve never faced before. A Gospel Coach will help encourage and equip you every step along the way.
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Dr. Tom Wood
I've been in the Church Planting business my entire career. I want you to know, you don't have to plant a church alone!